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Can we fall in love with the same person more times?

When you are with someone for a long period there are good and bad times. Sometimes you are so annoyed by each other that you might start thinking that you’d be better off single. Some people say being single is good. Is it? I haven’t been single for more than five years straight and I can’t say. The thing is that I started dating when I was 18 and now when I’m older I see things from different perspective, not just because being in relationship. I became more mature so to say. There are many things that form your personality, so it’s difficult to say what caused that. Anyway – from my perspective  its better to be in a relationship than being single. I’m still living with my parents, but I’d love to try to live with my boyfriend. It must be totally different being together nignt and day, than see each other a couple of times per week and once a while sleep over. But this is quite common in Slovenia. While being in Portugal and having a discussion according to that topic I found out that we are very different. In Slovenia we live at our parent’s place for long time and even later, when we get married, we usually stay in the same house, just in another floor than our parents do. If a couple has more children, one of them stays home with his new family and the other one goes to live in a house of his/her partner’s parents. In some years maybe they go on their own, but mostly they rather buy expensive cars and weekends for the money they save. When I told that to people in Portuguese course where we held this discussion they were shocked. They said this is neither healthy neither normal. You must have some privacy, if you are living with your parents they’ll always mess around. Houses in Slovenia are very big, so if you’d leave there’d be plenty of unused space. They say it’s cheaper to live together. But is it good? I don’t think so. So I’d like to live with my boyfriend on our own, when we’ll both be ready. And let me return on the title of this post. Can we fall in love with the same person more times? It happened to me. After bad times there are always good ones. That goes to every aspect of life, love including. And one day you realize how crazy you are about your partner. I love beginnings, when you feel butterflies in your stomach and when you are anxious waiting for message or call from him/her. And those butterflies can come again and you realise how lucky you are. In my opinion nothing is perfect, but if it makes you happy in long term – maybe this is it.

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February 17, 2010 - Posted by | Thoughts about life | , ,

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